How To Deal With Controlling People
By Apostle Cathryn Ndyabagye

Ephesians 5:2
Your life must be controlled by love, just as Christ loved us and gave his life for us as a sweet-smelling offering and sacrifice that pleases God.

Many people today do not have a mind of their own. They live for other people and end up being a slave to a controlling person. This is a fact. Happens every day!

I have seen many people hurt by a controlling person. And they crush the spirit of others often without even realizing they are out of control with control!

When I have allowed people to control me in the past, I got walked on and taken for granted. I had to remove myself from their control. I found another way to deal with people such as this...

God helped me to see and opened my eyes on how balance is so important in our walk with him. That we can be free with liberty to serve God in the Holy
Spirit freely. We don't live under bondage. We are free in God's love. Jesus wants to be the one in control of our lives!

I can get along with most people and if they try to control me, they usually do not like it when I let them know, because I have to be me, and  I won't allow it. That God is my control. Because my life is ran by God not man. I follow God's lead.

There is a difference in controlling a person verses being in authority.

God made authority for leading in love that helps people better, not control their lives to make them miserable and abused or taken for granted. Surely God is not that way AMEN!

 I think people sometimes warp the word of with their own selfish ideas and run with it. In God our leadership points to love and to the cross where Jesus died for us. Leadership in Jesus does not neglect anyone or do any harm to people.

I have no problem with authority because I learned to respect them and do. I respect those younger than me also. Respect is the key to respect all people. This shows that God is definitely in control of us all. :)
And I learned to lead in love.

When we can love and blend with all kinds of people, and enjoy the vast personalities God made in others, we show we can respect all people for being who they are. And when they try to make us like them, we don't become ourselves anymore, if we allow them to control us.

Authority is good, as long as it does not put you into bondage of any kind. That should not be tolerated. If authority shows respect then you are in safer hands. AMEN!

Did you know that the ungodly are not supposed to control a Christian's life? 

So that means those who are Christians that are in God's authority, and are heads of Churches, over the body,  are responsible to be the best leadership for Jesus, displaying the likeness of Jesus in love and not lead in controlling slaving type of treatment. It needs to be a godly leadership with a caring heart!

Galatians 5:16
But I say, walk and live [habitually] in the [Holy] Spirit [responsive to and controlled and guided by the Spirit]; then you will certainly not gratify the cravings and desires of the flesh (of human nature without God).

When people feel the need to control me, or expect me to be controlled by them--I will let them know in a kind way how I feel about it. :) Sometimes they don't
like me because they can't succeed in controlling my life like they want. :)

God gave each of us our own mind to think of what we need to do for our own self. And through this, God never guides us to bring bondage into others peoples
lives.Control brings bondage into many lives. Controlled people causes those a person controls not free, and they are stuck DOING AS THEIR TOLD by the controlling person.

There is a difference in submitting and being controlled.

Galatians 5:25
If we live by the [Holy] Spirit, let us also walk by the Spirit. [If by the Holy Spirit we have our life in God, let us go forward walking in line, our conduct controlled by the Spirit.]

Ask many women today who have controlling husbands. They can tell you first hand what it's like. They are abused, and neglected all at the same time. Mistreated and many are called men of God! But this I question when they don't live according to the Bible.

GOD IS LOVE!

Galations 5:1
[ Preserve Your Freedom ] Freedom is what we have—Christ has set us free! Stand, then, as free people, and do not allow yourselves to become slaves again.
 

I love serving the Lord because His Love sets you free and liberty is given from God.

We don't have to live in bondage and allow someone to erase who we are! We have to be US in Jesus. So if we are living for a controlling person, doing
and being them, how can we be controlled by God?

For those married and live with a controlling husband. This is what the Word says and how God watches:

Malachi 2:16
For the Lord, the God of Israel, says: I hate divorce and marital separation and him who covers his garment [his wife] with violence. Therefore keep a watch upon your spirit [that it may be controlled by My Spirit], that you deal not treacherously and faithlessly [with your marriage mate].

God understands very much who is controlling and abusive and he won't tolerate it. They have to be accountable to Him!

Controlling people verses People who accept and respect people for who they are:

I don't know about you but, I am more comfortable around people who accept me and focus on love and kindness,  rather than those who want me to be something THEY want me to be. We have to be ourselves in God. AMEN!

How Controlling people are:

*First of all They have a Jezebel Spirit...
*People who control focus more on every action YOU do.
*They expect you to be perfect as they think they are. :)
*They are selfish and live is focused to be all about them.
*They expect you to be like them.
*They are sarcastic a lot of times or say smart remarks to put you down. So they can edify themselves.
*They start things, get everyone all upset, then they blame others for the whole ordeal. :)
*A person who controls will butt heads with you a lot.
*Argue and cause strife.
*They like to be perfectionists, and are not perfect themselves.
*They don't consider your feelings only their own.
*They don't care about you if you feel sick.
*They are cold and callus.
*When they get sick, the whole world is ending. :)
*They don't have time to listen to you.

Does that sound like a man who is Christlike?

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